How to flirt with BBW: mistakes which you should avoid to get lucky!

Before we dig too deep into this topic, let’s get one scientific fact out of the way. Every single girl is going to be slightly different on what they prefer in flirting. What is totally cool with one hick may appear impolite with another. Similar to so many situations, take this advice with a grain of salt and then bend it to fit your needs. Bottom line is to stay respectful.

A common misconception is that flirting is a gateway to sex. Flirting is more complex than that. It can be a way to peek a girl’s interest for a romantic relationship or it can be innocent fun between two attractive people. Dynamics change depending on relationships status, moral compass, religious upbringing, and cultural norms of the two parties.

Talking specifically about a BBW girl, a common barrier to flirting is fear. This category of women have faced rude attitudes from society and complete strangers toward their appearance. If your ultimate goal is to garner the attention of a BBW, we have some helpful tips to succeed.

Preparations Before Flirting

Set clear conversational boundaries before approaching a BBW in person or online. Certain topics are landmines including weight, exercise, diet, politics, religion, and sex.

Some parameters to follow:

  • Nix all comments or questions about weight.

Even if she loves her body, such phrases like “I love fat girls” are going to be rude. If you want to emphasize that you find her attractive, stick to words that flatter her appearance in general. Complimenting her outfit, makeup, or hair are generally safe. Phrases like “You have a beautiful smile” work on nearly any woman.

  • Previous partners are off limits.

BBWs are not an exception to this sweeping rule. Bringing the ex is date napalm, it will explode in your face. Drudging up memories, happy or sad, could bring about jealousy or mixed emotions.

  • Sports and extreme fitness.

Do you think this vivacious vixen wants to hear about your training for a triathlon? Not in the flirting phase. Two people with differing interests can form a unique bond, but it’s not good conversation starter material. If she seems like running a marathon would be a struggle for her (or torture), stick to safer subjects.

Definition of Flirting

The real definition of flirting is not something used in BBW dating apps. It is a subtle art to be respected.

The act of flirting brings many advantages to participants:

  • It helps a potential partner understand your intentions.
  • It ignites engaging conversation.
  • It invents excuses to touch.
  • It’s a preliminary test for sexual compatibility (is there a spark?).

Even if you’re the live embodiment of BBW meets BBC, know that flirting skills can make any man appealing. Charisma and chemistry should never be underestimated.

Shades of Flirting

Flirting comes in all shades of grey, just like the movie. Levels will depend on your motive and your target.

Below are a few samples of styles of flirting:

Flirt as an observation.

This is an exploratory stage where you use flirting to learn her boundaries. For example, if you made a joke about her job and she laughed, continue. On the other hand, if one topic made her visibly uncomfortable, avoid it moving forward.

This level is also a good time to discover her relationship status. Try this compliment as a trick, “I bet your boyfriend really loves you in that dress. It hugs your curves so well.” If she blushes and nods, she’s taken. Alternatively, if she responds with “I don’t have a boyfriend,” you know the window is open.

Active phase.

This step follows testing the waters in her humor and comfort level. She will signal that she’s comfortable with you by flirting back or laughing.

If your end goal is to have sex with this woman, try out a couple of risque topics. For example, ask her if she ever slept with someone from work. She might be embarrassed and refuse to tell you, but that’s ok. You have just identified another boundary. If she pushes on with the conversation and reveals her answer, that as a clear signal she is interested. Sidenote: if you are her coworker that is a blaring sign she’s down to date within the office pool.

Advanced phase.

This stage is all about touching. The main rule – don’t touch her breasts, hips, or booty. All zones should be polite. Establish yourself as a gentleman while also turning her on. The right touches paired with the perfect speech brings awesome results. Read her body language, she’s into you if:

  • She turns her hips towards you as you talk.
  • She finds excuses to touch you like accidentally bumping into you or bushing your arm as she reaches for something.
  • She maintains eye contact.
  • She leans in to whisper in your ear.

Flirt for sex or not

The next step after flirting depends on your preparations. If you have wondered about sex, make the phase of touching longer. Read about the erogenous zones of women and apply it to your practice.